What is the number one reason that couples seek counseling? If you said communication, you're right! Does each person want to improve his or her communication skills? Sometimes yes, but most often no. Each person usually wants his or her partner to communicate better - the "fix him/her" approach. It's usually stated as "I keep saying the same thing over and over, but he or she never listens"! or, "he or she just won't talk to me". What is good communication? You most likely know that effective communication requires you to be clear, direct, concise, and use "I" messages. What is less commonly known is that the key to good communication is listening -- really listening -- to one another. How? Listen with your full attention, check out what you hear, validate, and empathize with your partner. Never attack; never defend. Respect, commitment, trust, and honesty are crucial. With my help, you can become a truly loving couple, because when you feel heard and understood, you feel loved and respected.