"WIN-WIN" CONFLICTS

Areas of Speciality

First and foremost, you must go into any conflict with the sincere desire to resolve the issue. If your focus is on being "right", then no one wins. Of course, you can be determined to be in "right", but in doing so, you may find yourself alone in your "victory". Instead of trying to be right or trying to change your partner, you must be willing to negotiate and be flexible. Use "I" messages which means owning your feelings, thoughts, and reactions. There is no room in any relationship for blaming, name-calling, belittling and absolutely no abuse. Hearing the other person's point of view is key; this is not easy, but you can both learn to really listen. You can disagree but still respect each other's point of view. Anger has no place in any discussion, so if you feel your blood pressure rising, take a break, calm down, and resume the discussion at a later date. Remember, conflicts are opportunities for learning, resolution, and growth.